Uninfluenced Decisions - by Anger (Part 1 of 2)

22/06/2013 00:00

Boldness and angriness are confused in a way both are expressing the same. No, being bold is totally different from being angry. Boldness could be an outcome of anger at times. But, it is not the same.


A very good understanding is essential about the difference between being bold and angry to carry on the plans successfully. If you see what psychologist is talking about anger; anger is a kind of emotional state from normal irritation to intense fury.


On the other hand, boldness is a daring, fearless attitude that is willing to take risks which involve threats and danger. Angry mood can be perceived by seeing his face, but, bold is always admired by practical actions which is risk taking fearless actions.


Normally, all of us experience anger at different occasions. If anger is well maintained within our control, it is not something destructive. But, if it gets out of control, we start facing problems. The problems may go to the extent of doing reckless violent actions, breaking a long term relationship and business empires. Some might break their mobile phones, computer key boards and break furniture as an expression of angry mood.


To become successful in life, we should learn to take decision without the influence of anger. Then, the decision will be good, and it will not put us to unwanted troubles. Otherwise, decisions taken at the time of being angry will end up in any form of loss which could be relationship, money, position, power, etc. It is essential for a person of strong Willpower to know how to manage anger in a constructive way as he may get angry once in a while. This is about constructive anger management.


For e.g. a gentleman is working in a company as a Sales Manager, a very good performer. His high performance has made him to overshadow his higher authority. Unfortunately, it has developed rifts with his boss. He gets angry frequently at his boss. In his intense fury, he spontaneously resigned his job one day without thinking of the outcome and how the current economic scenario, a high depression state, is. Later on, he struggles to get a job in the same position. I don't mean he shouldn't resign, which might depend on his confidence. But, he should practically listen to his own senses like "is there really mistakes on my part, that is why I have rifts with my boss". The mistake is that he took the decision to resign spontaneously at his angry mood.


The above is witness in a lot of broken relationships and divorce cases also; they take decisions to break at the moment of their angry mood. The anger makes them forget all their cheerful moments they have had together for a long time.


Some petty causes also make one to get angry. It could be an insult, mock, force or threat. Even a new work system to change the regular customary work atmosphere could also be a source for anger among employees in big corporates. The list shall go on to societal events, political changes, high traffic jams and so on.


In the majority of incidents, some expectatios are fixed knowingly or unknowingly on the subjects we involve. We are getting angry when our expectation is not met out by the persons/subjects whom we are dealing with. We expect something. But, there is an opposite, or, in a sense, not the same happening as per our expectation. This makes us getting angry.


The tricky thing is that anger is an easy catch for the fast and high performing persons while getting insulted, teased or fired.

to be continued in Part 2.....

Uninfluenced Decisions - by Anger (Part 2 of 2)