Brain talks to Brain-itself (Part 1 of 2)
In our time, we talk colloquially the terms “brain chemistry or chemistry doesn’t work out between us”. Brain chemistry is explained in Neuroscience as “brain communicates with itself by releasing or sending out chemicals from one neuron cell to another”. The releasing of chemicals is associated with specific patterns of behavioural response, body movements and reasoning on a specific exposure. This can be easily understood by the following example.
E.g. you are going with your friends through an elevator in a multi-story building from the ground floor to some higher level. You people are chatting, cracking jokes and laughing loudly in the elevator. In between, may be from floor level 3, unexpectedly your MD, to whom you are working, gets on to your elevator. You wish him, but, you will generally stop your chatting and loud laughing, and you start maintaining decorum until your MD gets out of the elevator.
If you analyse what stopped your loud talks and laughs when you saw the MD getting on the elevator, it was your chemical release pattern which changed your behaviour unknowingly by its power of generating physical movements and system of reasoning. The important point here to be carefully analysed is that it sets you a type of chemicals which secretes automatically whenever you are exposed to your MD for example here. So, the brain is acting based on some trigger points.
The trigger point is a momentary impulse to your brain. This makes you freeze and unable to change your behaviour which is a regular outcome whenever you are exposed to that particular person, situation or task. You can’t change this unless otherwise you specifically try to change. This is collectively applicable for all types of feelings like happy, excited, sad, etc.
If the interactive response is of positive attributes, there is no need to change. On contrary, you should commit to change your negative behavioural patterns. The change involves stubborn determination by repeatedly guiding your mind by saying like, I shouldn’t become nervous, I shouldn’t tremble, I should be calm and talk boldly at this situation. It is a message you’re murmuring in your mind subconsciously, which should control or stop the certain type of chemical releases. So, you will not become stammering, nervous while facing any uneasy trigger point. This is arduous task, not easy as you think.
For eg. We could have noticed that, due to the ill treatment of his boss, one of our colleagues will talk disturbed like “today I am not going to leave my boss and I will take him for a ride”. But, the moment he faces his boss, he surrenders suddenly like a cat. His brave talks will vanish like lightning flash. We will also mock at his change how suddenly or in a sense of unknowing he behaved fearfully in front of his boss. Here he has not consciously taken any practice to change his brain chemistry. His wish is not sufficient.
For achieving great mile stones, you should not behave frightened at any point of time. It is a sign of weakness. You should work out wilfully to improve your brain chemistry. A good workout will yield to maintain a desirable wavelength to the person whom we are dealing with. It is the wave length which determines the comfort of any situations and relationship.
........to be completed in Part 2